Jesus entered a village
where a woman whose name was Martha welcomed him.
In order to welcome Jesus, Martha focused on serving, on doing what was expected, doing what was required in order to make Jesus comfortable in her house. Mary, by contrast, seemed to be shirking her obligation to assist with serving. Sitting at the feet of Jesus when Martha could barely manage on her own and could use help seemed unperceptive at best and lazy at worst. The fact that Jesus allowed the situation to continue, for both sisters to persist in the roles they chose, struck Martha as indifferent. She was working hard to provide an optimal environment for Jesus while Mary seemed to be doing nothing of value.
"Lord, do you not care
that my sister has left me by myself to do the serving?
Tell her to help me."
The fact that Jesus neither told Mary to go to Martha nor went to Martha himself to explain the difficulty must have been because he knew she would come to him. Rather than accepting the societal norms of his day as a barrier, he showed by this that they could instead be overcome by one's choice. Martha was free to join them or not, regardless of what norms or circumstances dictated. Martha, of course, could not recognize this choice as a valid one. But the way Jesus expressed it made it seem as though it would not only be good for Mary but for Martha as well. He contrasted Martha's anxiety with the centering influence of being near to him as Mary had chosen to be. And this contrast was nothing if not an invitation for her to join them. She would henceforth know that she was always free to do so. The only thing that had ultimately kept her away was herself. Not that she was to blame. The reasons she assumed her course was necessary were manifold and plain.
"Martha, Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things.
There is need of only one thing.
Mary has chosen the better part
and it will not be taken from her."
There will always be reasons why it was not a good time to simply sit with Jesus. We might abstractly understand that we need to seek first the Kingdom. But we often assume it must wait until after dinner, until all the chores are done. There are a million practical necessities that seem like that must come first before the Kingdom. But there are moments of opportunity to be near to Jesus that must not be missed. It is absolutely the case that this might even provide a mild natural inconvenience to others if they must then, for example, wait longer for a meal. Jesus was not saying and could not have been saying that everyone should always in a mode of pure receptivity and never doing the extraneous tasks that were in fact necessary to support his mission. But he was explaining what must come first in the hierarchy of priorities. To the degree that we put second things in that first place we will inevitably experience the burden of being pulled in a million different directions. Only when being near to Jesus is our highest priority will we understand how to address everything else.
We may hope that Martha emerged from this experienced, not chastened for a failure, but with a new sense of freedom to share in the better part chosen by Mary. It might delay dinner, but not forever. And in any case, whenever Jesus himself was part of that process and assisted with the meal, it was always better than it could have been otherwise.
John Michael Talbot - Holy Is His Name